Why Does Kim Not Write About Dawn??

Just recently I had a blog "friend" bring up the fact that I don't share much about my relationship with Dawn via my blog posts. That is true and thanks V for pointing that out. Let me explain... The main reason I share very little about me and Dawn and our relationship is primarily because Dawn is a very private person and really isn't all that thrilled that I have a blog much less that I share details about her and/or us on the internet. To my knowledge, she has never been to the blog to read it on her own! She even created a Facebook account under a fake name so people wouldn't know who she was! Dawn is concerned that someone from her job will "find" her and will discover information that she'd rather them not know. So knowing how she feels and wanting to respect that, I try to limit what I say about her directly in my posts.  But since V did bring this to my attention publicly, I felt the need to write a bit more about us and what life has been like since we became mommies to Mason.

I won't go into every little detail but will share a glimpse of how we have worked together to be the best parents to Mason. For those of you that know me, know that I have wanted a child for many, many years and know that I would have done just about ANYTHING to be sure that happened. Well no one knew this more than Dawn. She was about as patient as any one person could be during our 7 years of trying to become parents. That seven year journey started with trying to conceive (TTC) for nearly a year to working with the Independent Adoption Center for over 5 years, to doing foster care for 6 months and then back to trying to conceive one more time. Towards the end, her patience grew thinner and thinner and she was just about to give up when she agreed to go along with TTC with a fertility specialist. She said you can try 6 times and after than we are DONE. I agreed and prayed that it would happen and that I wouldn't exceed my 6 time limit!! Thank God that it worked on try # 2 and we were blessed with our handsome little guy, Mason.

She continued to be patient with me through my pregnancy and the months following Mason's birth which if I had to guess were probably the toughest of them all. While dealing with a newborn, she also had to deal with the emotional mommy after the raging hormones set in. There were lots of days of crying, lots of days without sleep and lots of frustrations from everything having to be PERFECT and me not willing to not be PERFECT! Because this could become an enormously long post, I'll fast forward through all of those details. After getting through the first couple of very rough, non-sleeping months with the little guy, we were able to get into a parenting groove that worked for us.

That groove quickly became a shared parenting role which helped both of us in many ways. We split the responsibilities between the two of us and that allowed each of us to spend some one on one time with Mason as well as time together as a family. Our roles can best be described bu outlining a typical day in our house. Dawn goes to work out at 5:00am and then heads to work so she is up and out of the house before Mason and I get up. I get up around 6:00am and get myself together before Mason gets up around 7:00am. Mason and I spend some time playing in his room before getting dressed and heading downstairs to eat breakfast. After eating breakfast, it is off to daycare. Dawn picks Mason up from daycare and gets to spend about 45 minutes with him one on one until I get home from work. As soon as I get home, Dawn prepares dinner while I play with him. We then eat together as a family and then she plays with him while I clean the kitchen after dinner. Dawn loves to cook and I do not so that works out great for us.  After things are all cleaned up, we both play with Mason until it is bath time. Dawn gives him a bath and dresses him for bed. I then read a few stories to him and sing a few songs while he drinks his milk cup and then he goes to bed.

After Mason is in bed, Dawn and I have a couple of hours to spend together before we go to bed. Now if there is any area of our relationship that needs to be worked on, this is it. Instead of spending "quality" time together those couple of hours before we go to bed, we are both usually on our computers either catching up on missed emails from home and work or playing stupid games online. While this is probably necessary a couple of nights a week, it is not necessary nor healthy every night of the week! So now that I have put that down in writing, it is time to do something about it! I'll blog about that in another post.

Hopefully, this post offers a little insight to our roles as parents and allowed me to talk a bit about Dawn without revealing who she really is!! Shared parenting has been a hot topic on other blogs that I read. While some of those blogs hit on some areas that we need to work on, I was very pleased to see that we seem to have a solid shared parenting relationship and that makes me proud. We have even had a few of our "straight" female friends say they wish they had a wife!! Yep, there are MANY advantages to being a two mommy family.

Until next time......